BTDT! I would say get it through there by whatever means - yes, the BFH if necessary! - and then check whether the swing arm moves up and down freely (by hand) or binds. If it binds, the tip above about "grinding" the bushes down using the existing spindle and some valve grinding paste worked a treat for me. If not, you should be good to go.
The amount by which it is binding does seem much more pronounced if you're just twisting it by hand, as opposed to using the leverage of the swing arm. Still, I would get it to where it is "comfortable" so you don't risk snapping that bloody fixing bolt!!
Apropos of that, good luck lining it up! It took me, literally, HOURS. Only tip I can offer is to use allen wrenches to try to make sure the "holes" in the motor/tranny mount and the swingam spindle are aligned - first, really small ones then progressively larger ones - I think I got up to 3/8 SAE before I was able to get the 1/4 x 28 fixing bolt anywhere NEAR able to thread. PITA, x many!!! All I can say is, keep trying, good luck, and walk away and come back as many times as it takes.
PM me or post again if I can help. - B