it just dawned on me that the connector that snapped was one of the one supplied by old britts in the power arch kit, which they describe as "crimp, shrink, solder" so they have a low temp solder in them that melts when you heat up the shrink jacket. That must have been making the connection, then after it got warm enough running the bike for 10 minutes or so the solder would flow again, kill the ignition, and me letting it sit and cool down let the solder make a connection again.