Steve,
I'm not doin' THE gravel thing except to get to the pavement in about a mile. There are plenty around here though. The 3.00-19 ribbed Speedmaster seems to throw me off when it hits a rock that it doesn't like and it's like front slip on oil. So it's 25mph to the pavement. At my st(age), I'm not into show off or competition. I just have to let that go.
What a silly ignorant innocent and to me a bit personal obnoxious statement. Do not take this personal as it is just plain facts of the matter. Please please please Remember what you've been focusing on this post, the risk to get up and down the loose stuff intact.
I, you or nor anyone can not cross -THE Gravel- at any speed, routinely and not expect to be instantly thrust into antics or saves or crash just like any other racer on very edges of traction in any direction at either end. At least racers have speed and momentum in their favor to give some grace time to recover, but not THE Gravel. Absolutely do not be fooled you are being much in any safer in putt putt speed than the planning speed I now know is best compromise for definitive control with least toss down uncontrollable jerk rounds. I have Never Ever in my life crashed going fast on THE Gravel in a turn. Boy Howdy have I being as stupid timid as you - until reality of broken bike and broken bones and made me like I am now often pulling off daily stunter saves in nick of time just trying to get along safe as can be. I did not ride Trixie for one month before the Empire Rally do the close calls I was having on brand new not fully broke in rebuild, so just how stupid crazy does that imply. Of course hobot spends 3 yr waiting and 9 nine doing it, to go right out and bash everything up like I was born missing front teeth? But that's exactly what riding across THE Gravel is risking whether you know it or not - yet.
You describe the jit-jots just rolling easy along, well you just don't know how close those little annoyances are to SPLAT Downs - yet. I pussy foot my 1/2 drive way, 25 is too damn fast for a lot of it. Today when I almost lost it I was going 30 enjoying the cool air but was too cautious trying to slow going by the workers and truck. I should of kept my pace and just maneuvered into oncoming side which I could see enough yd ahead, but "normal road sense habits" about did nice new Trixie in again. I assume my trained brake feathering hit unseen pocket and lump just right, and converted surface into an oiled soap bar on ball bearings.
I had a transforming experience one night I'll not go into now but be as careful as can but don't think you are being any smarter saner safer than me when your tires are not really completely in touch with terra firma. Ever. Even my stoic slow disciplined life time experienced seasoned and reasoned buddy Wesley, went down on way to help me being as careful and slow in a bit of mild turn rather less radius than your drive way. Said he could not believe it, was going easy like he thought he always did, SPLAT. Do not Judge until you too have had your first real lesion from THE Gravel, my Masher Master. I always denote in total awe and respect as well calling it THE Slutty Shitty Stuff.
Most common event is you minding your ride as something enters you path or yo encounter is around a blind or over a crest, what do you do...
Be scared, very scared and realize the first few will hit so fast at so slow you may not learn a thing of what went so wrong, until repeated a few times, then may sound like hobot > crazy as it takes to sit on 2 tire on THE Gravel.